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Jun 2, 2026

8 Things Therapists Should Never Do

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Psychotherapy is governed by professional standards designed to protect client welfare, confidentiality, autonomy, and safety. While most therapists adhere to these standards, clients may occasionally encounter behaviours that fall outside accepted ethical and professional practice. Understanding the distinction between appropriate therapeutic conduct and potential boundary violations can help clients make informed decisions about their care and recognize when concerns may warrant further discussion or consultation.

Therapy Is a Professional Relationship

Therapy often involves discussions about deeply personal experiences, emotions, and challenges. Despite the personal nature of the work, psychotherapy is a professional service governed by ethical standards, legal obligations, and professional boundaries. Professional boundaries help preserve objectivity, protect client welfare, maintain confidentiality, and ensure that treatment remains focused on the client's goals and needs. Therapists are expected to work within their scope of practice, adhere to the standards established by their regulatory body or professional association, engage in ongoing professional development, and seek supervision or consultation when appropriate.

Red Flag #1: Being Distracted During Sessions

Clients are entitled to a therapist's full professional attention during appointments. Routine activities such as checking emails, responding to text messages, or taking non-urgent phone calls during sessions can compromise the quality of care and disrupt the therapeutic process.

While emergencies may occasionally require interruption, repeated distractions unrelated to client care are inconsistent with professional standards and can interfere with the development of a productive therapeutic relationship. Therapists are expected to maintain an environment that supports attentive, focused, and engaged clinical work.

Red Flag #2: Imposing Personal Political, Religious, or Social Beliefs

Therapists bring their own personal values and beliefs to their work, but ethical practice requires that treatment remain focused on the client's values, goals, and lived experiences. A therapist should not use the therapeutic relationship to promote personal political views, religious beliefs, social ideologies, or moral perspectives.

The role of the therapist is to facilitate exploration, self-understanding, and informed decision-making. Clients should be supported in identifying and clarifying their own values rather than being directed toward those of the therapist.

Red Flag #3: Making the Session About the Therapist

Limited and purposeful self-disclosure may occasionally be clinically appropriate when it serves a clear therapeutic purpose. However, the primary focus of therapy should remain on the client. Extensive discussion of a therapist's personal history, relationships, struggles, opinions, or emotional experiences can shift attention away from the client's treatment needs.

Therapists are responsible for managing their own emotional responses within the therapeutic relationship. If a therapist's personal reactions become the focus of treatment, the therapeutic process may no longer be serving its intended purpose. Clients should not feel responsible for managing, comforting, or supporting their therapist.

Red Flag #4: Asking Clients for Personal or Professional Favors

The therapeutic relationship involves an inherent power differential. As a result, therapists must take care to avoid situations that could exploit the relationship or create conflicts of interest. Examples may include:
- Requesting discounts at a client's workplace
- Asking clients to provide professional services
- Seeking personal favours
- Attempting to develop business opportunities through the therapeutic relationship

Even seemingly minor requests can create pressure for clients who may feel obligated to comply. Professional boundaries help ensure that therapy remains focused on the client's welfare rather than the therapist's personal interests.

Red Flag #5: Soliciting Testimonials, Reviews, or Promotional Content

Because psychotherapy involves sensitive personal information and a significant power differential, therapists should not be seeking public endorsements from clients. Examples of potentially problematic practices include:
- Requesting Google reviews from current clients
- Asking clients to record video testimonials
- Using identifiable client feedback in marketing materials
- Encouraging public endorsements of therapeutic services

These practices may create ethical concerns related to privacy, confidentiality, informed consent, and undue influence. Therapists should carefully consider whether marketing activities could compromise a client's autonomy or confidentiality.

Red Flag #6: Blurring Professional Boundaries in Public

Therapists have an obligation to protect client privacy both inside and outside the therapy setting. For this reason, many practitioners avoid initiating contact with clients in public spaces unless the client chooses to acknowledge them first. Introducing oneself to a client's family members, friends, colleagues, or acquaintances, or otherwise revealing the existence of a therapeutic relationship without consent, may compromise confidentiality and professional boundaries. Boundary management extends beyond the therapy office and remains an important aspect of ethical practice.

Red Flag #7: Practicing Outside Their Scope of Competence

Therapists are expected to practice within the limits of their education, training, experience, and professional competence. They should not present themselves as experts in areas that fall outside their qualifications, including:
- Medical diagnosis or treatment recommendations
- Nutrition or diet planning
- Financial planning
- Legal advice
- Specialized healthcare services beyond their credentials

When client needs extend beyond a therapist's scope of competence, appropriate consultation or referral is often warranted.

Red Flag #8: Judging, Shaming, or Invalidating Clients

Therapeutic conversations may involve challenging discussions, difficult emotions, and examination of unhelpful patterns. However, these interventions should occur within a framework of respect, professionalism, and clinical skill. Therapists should not demean, ridicule, shame, belittle, or invalidate their clients. This includes dismissing a client's cultural background, identity, lived experiences, values, or emotional responses. Effective therapy promotes insight and growth while maintaining respect for the dignity and autonomy of the individual.

Major Ethical Violations Requiring Immediate Attention

Some behaviours extend beyond poor clinical practice and may constitute serious ethical misconduct. Examples include:
- Sexual or romantic relationships with clients
- Sexual comments or inappropriate physical contact
- Breaches of confidentiality
- Exploitative dual relationships
- Financial exploitation
- Coercive or manipulative conduct
- Using the therapeutic relationship for personal gain

These behaviours can violate professional standards, codes of ethics, and regulatory requirements. Depending on the circumstances, clients may wish to consult the therapist's regulatory college, licensing board, or professional association regarding available complaint processes.

What Clients Should Expect From Ethical Therapy

Competent clinical practice includes professionalism, accountability, and adherence to established standards of care. Clients should expect a therapist who:
- Maintains appropriate professional boundaries
- Protects confidentiality
- Works within their scope of competence
- Establishes treatment goals collaboratively
- Provides care that is informed by current professional knowledge and standards
- Welcomes feedback and addresses concerns professionally
- Engages in ongoing supervision, consultation, and professional development
- Supports clients in developing their own insight, coping skills, and decision-making capacity

Clients have the right to receive care that is ethical, professional, and consistent with the standards established by their therapist's regulatory body or professional association. When concerns arise regarding a therapist's conduct, clients may wish to discuss the issue directly with the therapist, seek consultation from another qualified professional, or contact the relevant regulatory body for guidance.

Effective therapy is characterized by professionalism, respect, confidentiality, appropriate boundaries, and a sustained focus on the client's well-being and treatment goals. At VOX Mental Health we are committed to ethical, client centred care. Looking to begin your therapeutic journey? We would be honoured to support you.

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